Kids have a special ability to observe when someone is really interested in them and wants to get to know them as a person. They may lack understanding of many things that surround them but they have this innate ability to spot when a person makes an effort to be their friend.
Unless you leave your imagination free and enter their world you won't be able to be their special friend for as many kind words you say, money you offer, gifts you buy. It takes little to conquer a child, BE GENUINE and take a REAL INTEREST in them. When we were little it was so easy to do this as it came so natural, we asked questions, observed the world and wanted to discover as much as we could about everyone. As we grow older, social formalities, the fear of embarrassment, and cultural events make us loose this beautiful ability we once possessed. Why do not learn from kids how to enhance our social skills and take a real interest in others without waiting for something in return.
Do not be satisfied with a superficial knowledge of someones life. Do you have a superficial knowledge of your close friends? It means that they will not be close friends for a long time if they were ever your friends. So, if you put all this effort in knowing people you like and love, the same concept has to be applied when it comes to other people that we are interested in. People we want to make part of our lives. Persons that would be pleased to open up to us and be by our side.
Can you picture how it looks a day of the life of someone you are interested in? When you reach this understanding, knowing how every hour is structured, what they are doing, why the are doing it... You will have made real friends that would be really interested in you as well because you have made an enormous effort to know them and enter their world.
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